2008-Jul-31 - BDSM RESOURCES

As I said in an earlier post I would add some BDSM resources for other areas of the United States.  Instead of compiling a long list I lucked out and on domsub friends I found they did it already.  So check out the website and find your state so you can find the resources you are looking for!

Just to note although the domsubfriends website is not jam packed with information, I find it quite friendly and easy to read.  If you are so inclined, please look around the site!

Looking for EVENTS? Some of these BDSM events can be quite fun and very exciting.  I've been to many and always make plans to visit if one is near me.  Here is a website to keep up with the events.

Another great website to find news and information pertaining to the BDSM lifestyle is a great read, please do take time to look all over the site.

Now there my little pets you have quite a bit of homework to do with what I've put out there for you, I expect that you will be reading and taking in all that information; learning just what you are supposed to do for your Dominant or your Mistress, or even for yourself if you are in the search for more :) ENJOY!

Regard,

Ms. Sasha

2008-Jul-31 - Fantasies

Everyone has fantasies and they can be quite vivid and hot for someone that enjoys the arousal of the moment.  Perhaps we all want or crave things that we fantasize about but are not brave enough to share with our lover.  Thats where its fun to be on the other end of the phone with someone that isn't going to judge you, that will take your fantasy and run with it.  Is there something wrong with sharing your fantasies with a stranger and enjoying the climax of it? No not at all.  In a perfect world we would all be open minded and eager to satisfy and please our mates but its not a perfect world and taboo and societal judgement leaves many afraid to even utter a word about what goes on in their minds.  What a shame, it is very freeing to feel open and aroused when sharing those fantasies with another.

Thats what makes what I do so fun so exciting and downright HOT!  Hearing that voice tremble as my pet shares with me what he truly craves and aches for.  He could be in a high power job all day long making decisions and showing his dominant side, but for a little while he gets to be on his knees begging for release from someone he knows is not judging him but is celebrating his wicked sexy fantasies.  I am lucky enough to bring most of my fantasies to life but I have a desire to do that and am not afraid to speak my mind.  For those who are unable to do so and share them with their lovers, its a great honor to me to help cultivate and expereince those feelings that others have and need to play out.

What is your fantasy? Do you want to see where it will go? I'm always waiting for something new to tickle my fancy, try me!

Regards,

Ms. Sasha

2008-Jul-29 - Naughty Boys

Do you feel naughty often at work? Sitting alone in your office with the door closed but not locked? Eager to satisfy a nagging ache in your trousers? I love naughty boys like you!  I have one pet that enjoys knowing that he could be walked in on at any moment as he purrs into the phone with His Mistress.  Doing naughty things to himself to hear Me coo in his ear with delight!

I am eager to know just how many of you are out there? You, naughty ones that like the excitement of possibly being caught? Mmm you should let Mistress know she enjoys the fun too!

Pix & Flix Feeds

2008-Jul-11 - Adult Blog Directory

Phone Sex Blogs

Phone Sex Directory

Want to add your blog to a great site with excellent reviews? Do it NOW!

2008-Jul-11 - Want to speak to Me directly?

2008-Jul-11 - More Photos of Mistress?

2008-Jul-10 - Georgia BDSM Resources

If you are in Georgia and looking for resources locally I have added a link to a great start.  I feel like if you are craving the lifestyle you should investigate it!  Please look for other state BDSM resources if you are from another state other than Georgia. 

Ga BDSM Resources

1763 Learn it, Love it and Live it IF you want to be My subbie!

I will add other states as I have time, I have plenty of hot spots for the Dallas Tx area as well!

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - CBT

I like to play with a subbies little nuggets and hear the groans of agony and loyalty escape from his lips.  I enjoy implements and stretchers and all kinds of goodies that make the play fun.  I think any subbie that is beginning in the lifestyle should read up and understand what good safe CBT (cock and ball torture) really entails.  I expect my subbies will be doing this?

Celebrate submissive males

CBT

Now I've given you two great sources for your learning pleasure, make sure you understand what I enjoy most when it comes to playing with my subbies little sack of manliness :)

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - Wax Play

Do you like wax play? The feeling of drips of hot wax landing on your tender skin and dribbling down until it hardens, giving your body a rich sensation of mild pain and pleasure surging through you? I love wax play, its one of my favorite ways to do sensation play.

If you are just learning new ways to enjoy yourself you must learn about wax and how to play with it in a scene.

Waxing eloquently

Safer Saner Wax play

Look into it!

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - your OWN adult store

Get Yours now!

2008-Jul-10 - Japanese Rope Bondage

Rope bondage is truly an art in itself gloriously beautiful and intricate.  The time it takes to make your subbie look as if they are bound tightly can be consuming and very erotic.  If you have not experienced or looked at any of the japanese bondage art I suggest you do that and enjoy the beauty of it.

8 steps to bondage

Beautiful Rope bondage art

Learning Japanese Bondage

Bondage tutorials

Bondage University

Tips on self bondage

Applying a rope harness

Learn KNOTS

There are so many great sites out there for the bondage enthusiast to rummage through, I've given you a start if you want more look it up or email me :)

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - Care of your Toys

For the care of your toys you should take care to wash after every use. This means anti-bacterial soap and warm water will be fine. To really get in all the spaces, you will want to scrub them really well. Some toys are waterproof so they make for easy clean up but if your toy is not waterproof, make sure you take care not to submerge it in water.  Using a purchased toy cleaner is always a great idea as well.


Store your toys after drying completely separated in a dry place, a plastic bag is a great use here, personally I like to remove any batteries and store them out of the toys so not to have any problems with them leaving residue.

Always be safe and use anti-bacterial soap and warm water and dry them well.  It's a good practice to wash your toys straight after using them and not leaving them laying around waiting!

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - Orgasm

Did you know that women have two types of orgasm? They have internal and external types of orgasm.

The internal orgasm is brought on by stimulating the g-spot as its known, which requires a curved penis or a g-spot vibrator which feels more like clenching muscles inside, followed by a craving and sudden need for penetration.

The external orgasm which is from clitoral stimulation which is the easiest form of orgasm for women. Easy and well known because the feel is very intense, it feels as is the clitoris itself itself is having the orgasms, you can feel the difference as it occurs outside and brings tingling feeling to your whole body.

Knowing this allows a man or woman to aid the orgasm of their partner by using the proper toys in bed or their own tongues, fingers and penis.

Of course the males climax is from the stimulation of his penis drawing from the depths of his testicles.  This build up can easily be manipulated with lips and fingers, devices or a nice warm woman.  Men can enjoy a range of toys to help them achieve their climax and should for variety in masterbation.

Try a toy and see how it makes you feel :)

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - Write it DOWN

Do you have a lot of daydreams and fantasies that float around in your mind all day? Write them down, put them into a story form and let your imagination flow. You will be surprised to see how sensual and turned on you get just putting your words on paper.

With my subbies I like to have them do writings for me it tells me a lot about what they crave, gives me a look into their fantasies and it helps me to know just who they are, its a wonderful task for my training slaves. 

Journal writing is very creative and can lead to story topics or just ideas on how a submissive wants their journey to go. 

If you don't think you can write an erotic story you are wrong, anyone can do it!

You can check out some websites to help get your creativity flowing:

Write Erotic Stories

Erotic Quills

How to write erotic fiction

Give it a try, if you'd like send them to me I would love to read them!

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - How to have good phonesex

Do you feel awkward when having phonesex? It's not abnormal to feel a bit silly but still craving the sultry voice on the other end to help you meet your goals.  Whether it's domination or just plain phonesex you should take the time to get comfortable before dialing.

Take a shower or just lay on the bed or sofa for a bit and lightly let your fingers explore, getting your body receptive, don't get too worked up yet or you won't be able to enjoy your time on the phone for long!

Make the call and use a bit of creative foreplay, flirting and getting ready for the fun, talk softly but loud enough that both parties can hear each other well.  Talk about what you enjoy, what your fantasy is and where you want it to go.  Share with your caller that you feel nervous or awkward, this will be open communication and you both can soothe the situation.

Listen to the sounds of the sighs and moans and enjoy the breathing of each other that really makes it feel intimate.  Be very descriptive and enjoy sharing everything, this will make the climax and the fantasy come to life!

If you are eager to try phone sex but feel nervous, don't worry, everyone is the first moment or two but it can get very hot and steamy quickly with the right frame of mind!

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-10 - Pantyhose

Do you enjoy the soft silky feel of pantyhose or stockings? It's actually not that rare for a man to enjoy the feeling of a womans stockings or lingerie against his skin!  I had a caller that I enjoyed very much that loves stockings, he likes to wear them, feeling his cock tight against his belly as if he's in some form of chastity.  He likes to rub himself with them and stroke his balls with the stockings, enjoys putting them in his mouth and sucking on them, gagging himself as he plays with his nipples and balls. 

It's a very exciting fetish and I enjoy a man that have some stockings to play with while I am taking him to the depths of his humilty.  I like to make my subbies wear them under their work clothes and to have them with them in many capacities.  They fare perfect for a butt plug to help keep it in all day as he moves about!  Even better if they are pantyhose instead of stockings but stockings are wonderful implements for bondage and for having a good whack session.  Having my subbies cum all over them then keep them just as they used them so they can see the dirty mess that they make. 

Do you like stockings and pantyhose? If you do, lets explore that :)

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-8 - Your OWN adult store!

Get Yours now!

2008-Jul-8 - Play time

Do you know how many useful play toys lay around your house? I think that my subbies know by now how creative one can be when needing things to play with and searching for that extra something! A quick list to start with, especially for those of you that want to play with ME over the phone, and if you can think of some that I don't have listed, then please feel free to share them with all of us!

Mistresses Favorite things:

Toothbrush

Spatula

Wooden Spoon

Belt

Shoe Laces

Hair brush

Pot Scrubbers

Dry uncooked Rice (Mistresses Favorite Thing)

Ginger root (from the fridge)

Carrots

Cucumbers

Lemon/Lemon Juice

Sand paper(fine grain)

shoes

cups

bowls

forks

duct tape

clothes pins

paper clips

rubber bands

Plastic Wrap (Saran wrap)

Wire whisks

Parafin candles

Shoes

Stockings/Pantyhose

Can you think of more? I don't want ALL the fun here I would like to hear what you come up with too!

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-6 - Fetishes

I thought I would say a word or two about the different fetishes that are celebrated in this lifestyle.  To say that being one that enjoys a fetish is not always meaning they are into others, but a good Dominant always likes their submissive to enjoy the things that they crave.  There are a lot of submissives that enjoy sissification or being a sissy boy.  This is always exciting for a female Dominant as it's an extra addition to humiliation play as well as making the submissive right at home in their own subspace.  Are you one that craves this fetish?

Do you know the differences in the panty styles? What about hosiery and bras? Would you like to learn?

What about a foot fetish? Do you yearn to lick and play with the feet of another? Helping to buy shoes and stockings and doing a bit of a pedicure to make your Mistress happy, how couldn't that be the ultimate for a foot fetish subbie? If you think there aren't many ways to worship a soft sole and ten wiggly toes you are wrong there are many many ways to make a foot fetish an ultimate experience.

Are you looking to crawl back into your crip, slip into your onesie and toddle around in your warm clean soft diaper? Adult baby fetishes are becoming more popular as people are beginning to open up to the experiences that they feel bubbling up from the depths of their dna makeup. This too, can be an exciting fantasy to bring to life as well as play with and make a wonderful experience for the subbie.  Don't think this fantasy can't be lived to it's fullest either :)

Being able to bring a fetish fantasy to life in some form can be very envigorating and exhilarating for someone whose mind is on this particular thought non stop but maybe in a relationship where they don't feel free to share it or feel uneasy about how to bring it about in their life.  A Dominant is the perfect one to share this with and is the one that can mold, shape and draw out your utmost fantasies.

What are your fantasy fetishes? Do you like the thought of sharing them with me? I like the thought of making them happen for you, so lets see what we can do to bring your naughty fetish to life!

Regards,

Mistress Sasha

2008-Jul-4 - COMMUNICATION

Communication

What is the most important aspect of a D/s relationship? Is it the skill of the Mistress/Master or the submission of the subbie? NO, it’s COMMUNICATION!

When two people share such an intimate, emotional experience there must be guidelines and both must be able to communicate to each other their desires, wants, limits and all that goes with the scene.  If one is failing to communicate this can cause the entire relationship to crumble.

The care and guidance of the subbie is imperative and the main focus of the Dominant. 

If there is a break in the communication the subbie can end up feeling lost and confused and then can pull away from the relationships.  Limits must be understood and constantly checked, as with some submissive’s their limits will change over time.  What the D/s relationships starts out with won’t always remain things will progress, feelings about particular events will change and the communication must flow accordingly.

Being an ACTIVE listener is important and can avoid the pitfalls of misunderstandings.  Don’t be afraid to ASK for clarification of what your Dominant is asking of you, this is NOT being disobedient and is expected by the Dominant.

In turn, the Dominant must listen carefully to understand exactly what the submissive is saying and communicating to you.  The entire basis of safe, sane and consensual is based on the ability of the two people to actively and honestly communicate.

First there must always be a SAFEWORD, there are some that say there are NO limits that they are willing to do ANYTHING.  This is neither safe nor sane.  SAFEWORDS are very important for both Dominant and submissive.

There should always be a moment for the submissive to prepare and to find their own subspace.  A Dominant should never rush a submissive into a scene.

Trying new things should be done in small doses so as each person can find their footing, sense if its something they are enjoying and find out just where this one experience falls in the submissive’s level of limits.

There should be constant communication during a scene, checking in on the submissive to see how they feel, if they re comfortable or if they are feeling any apprehensions.

Taking a time out before moving into the next experience is important, it’s a moment to share your thoughts and feelings about what just occurred and build that trust and confidence in each person.

A good Dominant has a great deal of patience and never rushes into things with a submissive and is there to hold the reigns when the submissive is trying to rush themselves.  All these different forms of communication are vital in a strong D/s realationship.

I am presented with submissives often that tell say they are NO limit submissives.  This puts red flags up to me straight away knowing this person does not UNDERSTAND the concept of the BDSM lifestyle.  As well as those that claim they are Dominants and then start ordering one around immediately without knowing anything about them.  This concerns me greatly in that the care of a submissive is being disregarded.  I hope that as you move along in your journey and discover what it is that makes you feel Dominant or submissive, that you do practice a safe, sane and consensual lifestyle.